The year is approaching its end and I know many of you are reflecting on its ups and downs. Perhaps you have already started making resolutions for 2019: the better job; the pay raise; the new relationship; the health and fitness goals; the travel goals; all the wonderful things that will make next year better than this one.
Some of you might have faced big challenges and drastic changes and now feel lost, hurt and confused. As you gaze at the luminous stars at night, you wonder if next year will be any better than this one. You fear the worst, but also hope for the best.
New beginnings can be terrifying, because they’re filled with uncertainty. But isn’t uncertainty the thing that makes adventures exciting? You never know what’s going to happen, and that’s part of the joy. Mandy Hale put it beautifully when she said: “When nothing is certain, anything is possible.” New beginnings can be exciting adventures to better destinations, if you allow it. What I have found in my practice is that the harder we try to change our circumstances, the more unchangeable they seem to become. I often direct my clients to this quote: “What if, instead of thinking about solving your whole life, you just think about adding additional good things. One at a time. Just let your pile of good things grow.” There is more wisdom in these words than most people seem to realize. My suggestion to you is to make this your motto in 2019. Instead of hustling and trying to make things change, just focus on growing your pile of good things. Wake up every morning with only one goal: to be as joyful as you can possibly be, where you are, with what you have. Let the question you ask yourself be, “How can I be happy now?”, not “How can I change my life in order to be happy in the future?”
If you do this, 2019 will be magical. The change you seek will come effortlessly and in ways you never could have imagined. It’s called surrendering to the flow of life. Stop trying to take charge of your circumstances and allow life to unfold before you. Put your agenda to one side and see, if perhaps all this time, you were wrong, and life actually does know what it’s doing.